If I Only Knew Then What I Know Now: A Son’s Story of Loving His Mother Through Dementia Kindle Edition

Dementia doesn’t arrive all at once.

It creeps in quietly, through forgotten meals, misplaced earrings, restless nights, and fears no one else can see.

This is the true story of a son and his mother, Gangaben, as they navigate the long goodbye that dementia brings. It is not a medical guide, and it does not offer easy answers. Instead, it shares the moments we rarely talk about, the frustration, the guilt, the misunderstandings, and the love that remains when memory fades.

Written with raw honesty and deep compassion, this short read reflects on what the author wishes he had known sooner: how dementia changes reality for the person living with it, and how small shifts in understanding can ease fear, preserve dignity, and create moments of connection even at the end.

Through everyday scenes, sharing biscuits, late-night coughing, imagined ghosts, and the simple ritual of asking, “Cup of tea, Gangaben?”, this book offers comfort to anyone caring for someone with dementia, or grieving the person they are slowly losing.